Are you a Hater? :)Warning, mild cursing involved. But if that doesnt bother you, read on :)!
[definition copied directly from urbandictionary.com]
One of the MOST common messages I get, is "how do you deal with haters". The truth is, you just have to. Its a part of life, not just youtube, or the internet. The internet is just a new platform for gossip because now people can not only talk smack, they can do it behind the anonymity of a computer screen. At some point in your life, someone will say something mean about you. It may be true, or it may be completely fabricated, but it'll happen. And lets just be honest here, girls are haters. The only people who have never had anything bad said about them are people that are absolutely underwhelming. YES putting yourself on youtube puts you "out there", but it doesn't mean you're ASKING for it. Thats like saying someone who dresses seductively is ASKING to be raped. People go on youtube for the love of beauty, and because they have something they wanted to share, not because they think theyre hot shit and want "omg youre so pretty!" comments.
If you want to go on YT, do it. But i'm telling you right now, as a life lesson, you cant and NEVER will make everyone happy. Someone will ALWAYS not like you. They wont like how you speak, how you dress, what you look like, or what you have to offer. People will ask you for hauls, others will say its bragging. You may only do neutral looks, and people will tell you "all your looks look the same" or you may love bright bold beautiful colorful makeup and then others will say your makeup is hideous and not wearable. You may cuss a lot, and people will say you have no class. Or you may be totally reserved and conservative, and people will call you monotone, boring and distant. So expect it, and the bigger you are, expect more. But just know you will never make everyone happy, so be you and I promise someone out there will love it, or even, a whole lot of people. The WORST thing you can do is let them get to you and stop shining, because not only are you losing (not reaching your goals/being the best you can be) you're letting them win. So the best thing you can do is keep being you and be DAMN good at it.
“Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity."
So recently, I commented to this girl on my friends page who could seriously not leave her alone. Day after day hour after hour she sat by her computer responding to her sub's comments over and over insulting her. Now I have a pretty pissy temper, Imma be real. My short temper is one of my BIGGEST FAULTS, but i've been trying HARD to work on it. And, I thought I was being pretty civil to her and wrote back
[click pic to blow up]Now theres NO POINT in arguing with a "hater", cause the truth is, most haters think their hate for you is completely legitimate so angrily arguing back and calling them a hater wont do anything. Theyre NOT always necessarily jealous of YOU, but they recognize that you receive attention and frankly, it pisses them off because they think its completely unmerited. So they'll publicly try to devalue you in any way they can because they ARE jealous of the attention you receive. If you have great breasts, they'll say you wear a pushup/have implants. Or you may be pretty, but nope, you're a cakeface. Or you may recieve a lot of male attention, so clearly then, you're a slut. Just dont bother arguing with them, because they will never admit youre right even when theyre blatantly wrong.
Now if youre male its a bit different. If they hate you, you then must have one of the following: a small penis or be a in the closet homosexual (choice of word is usually "faggot", idk why guys get so insulted by this BUT THEY DO). But im not a dude so i'm not getting in to that
But this girl has essentially now focused her efforts on me and not my friend and for the past few days been religiously watching my channel for HOURS (time stamps prove it), responding to my viewer's comments insulting me, and leaving message after message on my blog. The first one I deleted because I didn't make the initial connection b/w the first blog comment (that told me I had the ugliest/smallest asian eyes ever...literally the first time anyone told me I had small eyes haha) and I never give people like that the time of day. It in all honesty it makes me fuzzy inside when someone goes SO FAR out of their way to insult you over and over. Because this is the thing about haters: theyre your BIGGEST fans. No matter how much a sub may like you, they wont watch and comment you for hours. Nor will they tell EVERYONE with a willing ear over and over again how much they love you, but a hater will, hell they'll even make youtube and blog accts for the sole purpose of commenting your videos and posts.
So she then proceeded to post more comments after I deleted that one, and it kinda all hit me there, this was the SAME person from my friends fb fan page AND my yt account. It just never occurred to me that someone who goes to a good school could be SO FAR off their rocker- so it took awhile to connect the dots, especially because I never even responded to them so I didn't see how I could piss them off so badly.
CLEARLY grasping for straws, but to clarify for my readers: I dont go to a CSU, im in the SAME system as her so idk where that came from. Secondly i'm in a lucrative major (that she doesnt know) and regardless the Cal state system is great. Education is great, no matter where you get it from or what institution.
California has some of the BEST public higher education available and I commend ANYONE who pursues it. Also...LOL I will be the FIRST person to tell you I dont have big boobs! But I have a great butt which is even better in my book! =] It looks GREAT in jeans, skirts and dresses. I also don't mind that i'm short, and neither do my bf's who are consistently 6ft tall. Im no makeup artist, but I know what looks good on me which is why its either just liner or a smokey eye :) (the whole fake the crease/dark outer v on me thing looks eh) theres a lot of amazing makeup tutorials on youtube, which is why I stray from doing tutorials even though I am constantly asked, its just not what I came on to youtube to do. But when I think I have something valuable to share, id like to share it. And once in awhile Ill show you how I do something, because even though its not super professional, it works and someone out there liked it and asked me to. Im not perfect, and I will never ever say that I am.
But to the REAL point of this post, as I mentioned I generally don't respond to "haters", but since you want my attention AND a response, you got it babe :) Since youve spent the last few days and countless hours of your life messaging me with no response, its the least that I can do.
So Dear Ms. Zhu :
I dont respond to you because frankly, you're just not worth my time. Not only can I stick up for myself just fine, I also don't need a fake account to do it and can use my REAL name on my blog, youtube AND facebook.
"YOu can hide the comments for whatever you want, but I AM not going away." hahaha god maybe I just need to forward your messages to UCB mental health center. But I just wanted to let you know that psychiatric sessions are actually included in our (yes OUR) UC tuition, and I highly suggest that you utilize it since I think you could greatly benefit.
Every crazy ass poorly constructed message/YT comment you send just strengthens that. Who the hell in their right mind would spend so much time trying to harass people who could care less about them? o_O
And besides, if im going to argue with someone, id like it to be with someone that can think of better insults than "youre fucking ugly" "you have the ugliest eyes I have ever seen" or "you have small tits". How old are you, ten? But this is the LAST response youre getting out of me..so if it makes you feel any better, youre welcome to keep stalking me :) but im not wasting any more time on you. No point in beating a dead horse, haha crazy girl.
sincerely, Jackie Chu x3
PS. I suggest that you get off your computer and stuff your face in a good book because I think the internet is frankly rotting your brain. How the hell did you get in to UC Berkley with that spelling and grammar o_o